If you are worried about what other people think, stop it! Stop caring what others think right now! Never rely on others for your own self-esteem and happiness! Worrying about what others think can be painful, sap you of your drive and energy, hold you back from your goals and hold you back from enjoying life! Here are 12 reasons why not to worry about what others think.
With all due respect to those with mental illnesses and without attempting to stigmatize illness, please be aware that most people are far from perfect mentally. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness: "Approximately 1 in 5 adults in the U.S. - 43.8 million, or 18.5% - experiences mental illness in a given year."
It is possible, he/she may not always be in a state in which they may accurately assess the traits and competences of others. Please also consider the prevalence of co-dependency and narcissism in our society. Narcissists often engage in toxic behaviors (for instance, they may belittle others in order to boost their own egos).
The last time you went to the store did you notice anyone blocking the aisles? Yes, you saw full grown adults who probably know full well that other people exist and that some of these people are also in the same grocery store shopping for the same products. Mind boggling! Isn't it? What were they thinking? That's right! They weren't thinking at all and they certainly were not thinking about you or other people! This is how many people go about their days. Please continue to be your kind and considerate self. There is already enough of those who aren't. They are not thinking about those around them. This is often the case in other everyday settings.
Only you have experienced your own experiences and they have not. Consider the following excerpt from poet Wallace Stevens:
"Twenty men crossing a bridge,
Into a village,
Are twenty men crossing twenty bridges,
Into twenty villages..."
Each person has a different view of the exact same thing. Even children raised by the same two parents may experience life differently from their siblings.
Because you are you and have your own experiences, only you know what is best for you. Do not allow a so-called expert to put you on a starvation diet involving two crackers and a can of tuna per day. Do not allow someone to have you lift one hundred pounds if you feel you may become injured. Do not allow someone who has no idea what your daily life is like to create a schedule for you to follow. The examples are endless.
You are the one who has to live with the results of your own decisions. Do not allow others to make your decisions for you!
"Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right." - Henry Ford. You have a better idea of what you are capable of. They do not.
People may be jealous. They may lie to you to boost their own confidence.
Try ordering one pizza with all the same toppings for your 5 favorite people. It's not easy. - Is it? So stop caring what others think and don't try to be a people pleaser. Do what suits you best!
Others may project their own negative qualities about themselves onto others to detract negative attention away from them and onto you. It's not about you! If someone doesn't like you, it has more to do with how they feel about themselves and may have nothing to do with you at all!
The famous rap duo Salt-n-Pepa said it best in their hit song None of Your Business! (written by Herby E. Azor). The chorus "It's none of your business" plays in my head whenever I start worrying what others think about me to remind myself of just that.
You don't actually know what others are thinking about you. It's actually none of our business what others think either. Stop trying to "mind read."
If someone does think negative, it does not mean that it is true.
Based on all this information, who would you rather listen to? Yourself whom you know best? - or others?